You've Got Mail...

and I've got issues. My friend Jen has again reminded me that we need to do another girls movie night... to which I agree.... the movie in which she wants to watch is where I disagree.

Which brings me to 'my issues'.

I have lots of issues. Some big some small. Like, not eating at McDonald's because they tear down reforest for their paper. Or not walking on street grates, because I don't want to fall in. Before you laugh, consider this - there are no grate checkers, no one who inspects their safety. I don't like the company Bounty OR (as I mentioned in a previous post) Pillsbury. And I have issues with movies. I have so many that movies should have their own category with sub-issues!

I have issues with the movie "You've Got Mail". Have I seen this movie? NO... but I saw "What Women Want" so I am full up, thank you very much.

"Hey Jules, whats the problem? It's such a cute movie...Meg Ryan is so awesome".

Yeah, I am sure she is. But since you asked I will enlighten you on my issue. I love a romantic comedy as much as the next guy. I only ask that the characters in the movie are . I can suspend disbelief and overlook a lot of plot holes (Kate and Leopold). What I cannot do, is sit by as all of our female leads fall for crappy men one after the next (K & L not included).

In YGM - the Tom Hanks character is not a horrible guy. But his ethics are a bit questionable. Plus he (willing) lies and tricks Meg's character all the while knowing that she is his online love. And then when she finds out she STILL likes the guy.

As one review noted:
She offers no objection to the discovery that he has known for the last third of the film that she is the "Shopgirl" of their email correspondence, and has withheld that information (surely an unfair if not illegal romantic practice). And of course, she completely forgives him for his business practices.

or as this one said:
Perhaps most appalling is the fact that after Fox Books puts local landmark The Shop Around the Corner out of business, Kathleen thanks Joe for liberating her from the daily rigors of being a businesswoman. Now she can finally pursue her passion for writing children’s books instead of selling them. Presumably the two are mutually exclusive. When she further rewards him by agreeing to a friendship, my feminist side bristles.

"Hey Jules relax... it's just a movie."

Even more my point. Make it a romantic comedy where it is a TRUE happy ending and not a marginal compromise. I love a knight in shining armour... and that is what the girl should end up with. NOT a guy who is only partially a creep. We already have women settling in real life... I don't need to see it on film. PLUS for all the teenage girls out there who flock to this crap it sends a horrible message -"keep a hold of whatever man shows interest in you regardless of his standards and morals"

Anyway - that's how I feel - and YES I already know... I've got issues! And the best thing about Jen? She loves me anyway!


annie said...

I've been on a movie benge lately (gets me more couch time):
I saw The Island, a strange scifi that comes short of anything like Huxley depth but covers much of the same ground as Brave New World. It's blah.

Little Miss Sunshine: tired film technique that was once fresh with American Beauty or even Napolean Dynomite, but decent enough plot.

Constant Gardener: amazing! best movie in a long, long time. Rent the DVD (as opposed to cable or download) so you can watch the extras on filming in Kenya.

Otherwise, download season one of Weeds from iTunes and watch that. Good girlfriend material. You'll laugh so hard you'll pee.

Jen said...

Alright friend. My turn.

Let me say that the reason she offers no objection to the fact that he has known she was the "shopgirl" is because she wants it to be true. (Understand that I have no feminist issues in my bones.)

If he would have let her in on the truth, that would have been the end of it because she was so angry that Fox Books was moving into her neighborhood. The "deeper" relationship was the internet relationship and he decided he didn't want to give that up. What he had to do was convince her he wasn't as much of a jerk as she thought he was so that when she found out who "NY156" was, she would be relieved that it, indeed, was him and not anyone else.

Multiple times in the movie they say, "It's not personal, It's business." I can't jump on the feminist band wagon just because some poor little female got put under. Life sucks! Move on. What if he put a guy's business under. Could there be no forgiveness or relationship? Come on! Who cares?

My opinion is the guy isn't a creep for putting in a business near her's. He lied for quite a while which could make someone a creep but we always evaluate why or why not we would choose to accept someone else's poor choices and move on.

If I can't argue with a feminist point of view then oh well, but it seems more to reality than a magical world...

Anonymous said...

It's truly bizarre you (the above commenter) would be so proud to NOT be a feminist.